Could Emotional Upset Cause You A Missing or Late Period?

Updated: Jun 3, 2020

Panic stations, difficult conversations, pregnancy tests, stress, worry.....all to find that you are not pregnant?! But where has your period gone?

Missing or late periods are enough to strike fear in those of us who aren't ready to get pregnant, or don't want to be all together. The mind races, thinking: "I'm sure we used protection last time", or "did the condom break?" or "He pulled out way before he came, so it must be fine???" or "OMG, was I ovulating the last time we had sex?"

As well as the many physical reasons that our periods can go missing, I have started to realise that our emotional and mental health play a massive role too.

  • Shock

  • Exhaustion

  • Grief

  • Post Traumatic Stress

  • Trauma

  • Abuse

  • Depression

  • Shame

  • Burnout

  • Mental/Emotional Breakdown

  • Holding on to past painful or traumatic events

  • Not letting yourself rest

  • Not acknowledging that you are unhappy


I'll tell you a bit about my story in hope that it helps you with yours. There have been 4 times in my life that my period has not shown up. Day 29 comes and goes, and I start counting the days off the calendar, day 30, 31, 32, 34, 37.... and with each day my heart rate starts to get a little bit faster and my mind starts to race with thoughts of un-planned babies, shame, guilt and fear. The first time this happened, I was living in a van and travelling around Portugal with my ex-partner. We had just been though a HUGE and very traumatic ending and decided we needed to hit the road for some headspace, healing and perspective. So, boarding the ferry from Portsmouth to Bilbao, I stood at the back of the boat watching the land disappear into the distance feeling absolutely nothing. Just a deadening numbness throughout my whole body and soul. Now I can look back and see that actually I was actually suffering with post traumatic stress and depression. My last period a few days before had been raging and excruciatingly painful which symbolised how I was feeling on the inside, having to let go of such a huge part of my life.

We travelled through Spain, France, the Basque Country and Portugal, but all the while with this feeling of numbness. I literally couldn't feel ANYTHING. Day 29 came again, and this time no period. I waited 5 days, still no period. At this point my mind is racing. By day 39 there was still no sign of my bleed, I had done a pregnancy test and it had come back negative.... so where the hell was my period??!

On day 40 I was walking along the beach and got stopped by a french woman and her daughter. The woman could see that I wasn't doing too well and invited me to accompany her and her daughter back to her house for a cuppa and some medicinal essential oils. Within half an hour of talking to her she had brought my awareness to my womb and was teaching me deep truths, wisdom and insights about my body, yoni and femininity - things that I had been yearning to learn about ever since the trip started. She gave me oils, yoni steam herbs, hugs and love. She held space for me, listened to me and acknowledged my journey and pain. And when we were done she gently sent me back out into the balmy Portuguese evening to wander back along the beach to our beautiful little van. I felt a huge shift, like I had genuinely connected to my body and womb on a profoundly deep level. By the time I had walked back to the van, my period had started and the release I felt was so incredibly powerful.

I can now see that my lack of period was my body and womb protesting. They needed me to tune in and connect to my Self, to give myself permission to let go of all the pain and trauma, and to REST. This was the first time I had ever experienced a missing period. I have experienced it a few times since when I have been going through a particularly stressful or traumatic time, or when I have been disregarding my body and emotions. My womb just holts and literally will not bleed until I have slowed down, reconnected and given myself permission to SURRENDER. Surrender is the most powerful and potent word when it comes to your menstrual bleed. To let go of all that you have been holding on to, to open up and accept whatever will come next, to hand over to the universe, to acknowledge your body and the divine feminine within. And, this method has worked for me EVERY SINGLE TIME.